Continuing our discussion on emotional intelligence and systems thinking from last weeks blog post by Wally Hauck, I’ve asked my friend and mentor, David Dibble, to share his thoughts on the subject.
David has been assisting leaders in systems/process improvement and personal development for over 20 years. He is the creator of the New Agreements Systems Based Management process and the author of The New Agreements at Work, The Four Agreements at Work, CTypes and DreamWork. http://www.daviddibble.com; http://www.newagreementshealthcare.com/ http://www.thenewagreements.com.
First, let me begin by saying that I love and value emotional intelligence (EI) and systems thinking as integral parts to becoming a more Conscious Leader—A Conscious Leader who can build a sustainable and socially conscious organization. With respect to the question posed by Wally—which comes first, the chicken or the egg–I believe the question is about levels of consciousness in our leaders. Conscious leadership is becoming more important. Because, based upon trends, in a few short decades and possibly sooner, the only businesses that will survive will be ones that are systems literate and socially conscious.
Let’s go back to the original question for a moment. Systems Thinking is like learning a foreign language. First, we translate a few words back into the native language to make sense of them. As we continue to practice, more and more terms are translated, and finally, we reach a point where no translation is necessary and we become fluent. We are thinking in the foreign language. So Systems Thinking is not something we do, it’s something we become.
EI is much the same. Every thought has an emotional component, and that component is based in either love or fear. Normally, the mind runs on free spool, spinning out thousands of thoughts a day, none of which we proactively choose. Instead, the man crowds in front of the line, and we have fear-based thoughts (which include anger) and a confrontation ensues. Yes, there are system’s issues in the airport, but we still have the choice to be angry or not—a choice that is rarely acknowledged. Most of us live our lives this way, action/reaction, identifying with our thoughts and beliefs and going along for the wild ride that is a mind running amuck.
I’ll take a little chance here and talk about something that most people in business, including leaders, will question or simply dismiss. That something is consciousness itself. For practical purposes, consciousness might be construed to be a higher degree of control over our minds (thoughts, beliefs and emotions). Because the mind creates each individual’s reality, a more conscious person will create a reality that is more based in love than fear. It stands to reason, if we have a choice, most of us will choose love and connection over suffering.
And here’s a big one! The mind draws to it what we think about. If you have a lot of angry thoughts, you’ll attract people and circumstances to make you angry. People will do your mind’s bidding–by cutting in line in front of you at the airport or taking your parking spot.
Systems Thinking and EI are not something you do. They are something you become. And you become them by changing the parts of your mind that do not think in terms, or systems, or are not emotionally intelligent…or are not based in love. This is why I highly recommend that anyone who is committed to becoming a Systems Thinker, immersed in EI, or a more Conscious Leader, have a daily practice to quiet the mind. You will only be able to choose your thoughts when you have settled your mind enough to have awareness of what you are thinking—In Real Time. Here’s a powerful question. Who’s the thinker? Shouldn’t you have a say in the reality you create for yourself?
Take the Conscious Leadership Questionnaire. Compare your thoughts on leadership with David’s. http://www.daviddibble.com/2011/04/01/conscious-leadership-questionnaire/. His 30 question True or False— Conscious Leadership Questionnaire is set up to create dialog and be a learning experience. Once you answer the questions, click on the link to compare your answers with David’s.
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